BDSM Fun and Basic Toys

Lots of reasons. For many people, the knowledge that they are helpless, that someone else can do things with their body and they can't prevent them, is a powerful turn-on. "I'm going to make you come and there's nothing you can do about it." It's a very strong statement of trust to let someone bind you helplessly, or even non-helplessly. How erotic, to feel yourself spread open, wanton and wet, and to see your lover kneeling between your legs, ready to use you for their pleasure--or to pleasure you unendurably....

For others, the simple sensation of bondage feels good. Tight constriction can create very intense stimulation, and lots of tight bondage can be a sensory trip, just as a whipping scene can be. Bondage can feel comforting, pleasantly confining; you don't need to worry about anything, since what can you do? You're all tied up, and all that's left is to enjoy.

For yet others, it's a charge to struggle, to let your body lose control. It can really intensify an orgasm when you come with every muscle straining against your bonds, trying to get your hands free to smash your lover's face into your crotch, your body shaking. If you weren't tied down you'd hurt yourself!

An especially intense form of bondage is verbal bondage: putting your bottom in some position (spread-eagled, kneeling, whatever) and commanding them not to move... and then tormenting them! One kinky variation on this is as follows: have your bottom hold their hands out in front of them, fingers splayed, each fingertip touching the opposite fingertip. Put a penny between each pair of fingertips so they're holding five pennies. Now order them not to let a single one drop, on pain of some punishment or other, and then go to work! This works best on a hard floor so you can hear the coin drop.

Bondage must be funny, so here´s a list of the most used devices that will help you add more flavor to your games.

Gags

Gags are used to render people speechless, which has a great psychological impact. Some bottoms prefer gags because they muffle their screams of ecstasy. Those who use gags have an alternate signal to replace the safeword.

Types of gags are bridles, ball gags, muzzles, penis gags, electrical tape, panties, dildos, and bar gags.

Unless it renders the jaw inactive, gags such as electrical tape are typically ineffective.

Ball gags are effective and safe as long as they are anchored or strung onto a strap that is wide enough to be comfortable.

Penis or dildo gags are available with the penis mounted on the inside of the mouth, the outside, or both. Penis gags are used for humiliation, sex, punishment and teasing.

Harnesses

Body harnesses are used for decorative attire, suspension, and to anchor onto other restraints. Decorative harnesses are are made of rope in bondage scenes and of of leather for costumes. Harnesses used most for suspension are parachute harnesses which are available at most Army Navy Surplus stores - these are much better for the couple of who occasionally play, and are a lot cheaper than the leather ones that you can purchase at store

Cock Rings

Cock rings are rings that go around your cock, typically around the base of it, behind the balls. The penis becomes erect when the blood vessels at its base constrict (because of arousal), trapping blood in the cock and causing it to swell. Cock rings can also prolong an erection in most men that use them. (They also constrict the urethra, which will make any orgasm more painful, or even cause ejaculate to back up into the bladder. However, this is not dangerous unless done repeatedly. Experiment to find out how much tightness is too much.)

Most are made of leather, with adjustable snaps, so you can tighten or loosen them to fit (as well as remove them easily). Some are made of rubber. Some are even made of metal, but metal ones can be hazardous; if you put a too-small one on your non-erect cock, your cock may become so erect that you can no longer remove it--and if it is too tight, it will prevent your cock from softening. This may involve a trip to the emergency room and the use of bolt cutters.

Some cock rings have multiple rings, for behind the balls, around the balls themselves, and around the base of the shaft. Some people like using lots of cock rings, to stretch the balls out away from the body, or just to create different sensations of bondage.

Cages

Cages are used to imprison partners without the need of additional restraints.

Cages are made to resemble wire chicken coops, coffins, or wooden boxes. The type of cage one selects depends on the type of scene one wants to enact. If it is an interrogation fantasy, bars are often used. If the slave is a pet, then generally a dog cage, or kennel is used. Necrophiles, and vampires generally prefer coffins. Wooden boxes with ventilation holes are versatile in most cases. Cages are used as beds, punishment time, recess during play, and people who practice long term bondage, and who need to leave the house for a couple of hours generally consider a cage safe enough to leave their partner in.....

Cages may or may not be large enough to permit the slave to stand or lay fully stretched out. The size of the cage should be determined on how long the person is going to be left inside.

Chains

Chains are used for suspension or attaching one restraint to the other. They can be used to adorn the body, or to connect various ring piercings on the body. Chains because they rattle and feel cold, add tactile and auditory sensations to the bondage scene.

Chains are preferred by some for suspension because they are heavy duty and various items can be hung from the links. A 3" or 4" panic snap is added to provide for immediate release.